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so we have a problem

I think everyone's noticed it at this point.  Four members have left or decided to take a break in the past two days.  People are blaming the newer members and the younger members for things changing, which makes the newer/younger members and then the people who blamed them and everyone else feel bad.

So let's talk about it.  No matter what your age is or how new or old you are, come here and post your opinion.

I love you guys and I know we can get through this and make the community welcoming and fun again for  all members.   Together we can figure this out <3



if anything's badly phrased i'm sorry it's late and i've stayed up until midnight three nights in a row.  i'll come back and look this over again tomorrow.

mods:  would it be possible to feature this so more members can see it and give their opinion?  No problem if it's not ;)

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  • Mod
    Hi! Just wanted to share a link to a staff/mod message about NMG's rules, related to this discussion. If you have any questions, send 'em over anytime. Love you all. <3
    Re: "Mature" Content on NMG
    Greetings! Every so often, the question is raised of a "more mature" space on NMG, and/or of changing aspects of the community rules. Lately, as many…
  • Sometimes I feel like the mods don't like younger members. Yes, we rush into things, but I see a lot of deleted comments from kids around my age. This is not fair. How come some older members are able to get away with censored swear words while the younger end of the spectrum gets called out for all this stuff. I feel like sometimes the mods just don't like us for some reason.

    I have always been told that I have a very strong sense of right and wrong and what is fair and what is not. This is most certainly unfair.
    • Mod
      I'm so sorry you've felt this way, Claire! :( I promise, though, whatever you've been noticing is not intentional, and it's definitely not the result of mods disliking you, or anyone else. If you ever see something that feels unfair, you can PM me any time so we can check (and I hope you'll do so)! Moderators are still human, and sometimes something may slip by, so please tell us if something seems wrong. We love the younger (and older) members, and young and old, you all bring such wonderful thoughts, contributions, and personalities to NMG. <'3
  • I don't always know what to think. It's definitely not the younger and newer member's fault. I'm 12, and I wasn't even aware of this until now. I think it's unfair that people are blaming the younger and newer members for this. I am taking a stand. Let this be a message to those who are blaming us: Don't. We did nothing. At least half of us looked up to these people. We are not your punching bags, and we will not be blamed for this. That is final.
    • Thank Thoth someone else agrees! I’m in the younger end of the older members (14) but I don’t have anything against the new members, they are so cool and young(hello fellow kids moment) And they are nicer to me than kids my own age (yay bullying) AND THE YOUNGER MEMBERS ARE GREAT
      • YES
        I love the older members so much, but the younger members are k i n d and hilarious. I posted about this too, it’s completely wrong and off subject to put blame on any members or groups of members. Every person on nmg is lovely and wonderful
  • so I did what might be a dumb
    I made a NMG inspired pro boards site
    • it would be for only 13 and up...not because I think people under 13 aren't mature but it's the rules
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