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I noticed we didn't have a general mental health board. Here, you can ask for advice for yourself, find support, and ask questions about how to help loved ones. Whether you're feeling stressed out, anxious, depressed, or anything else, you can rant and ask for advice here. You will not be judged for anything. We're all here to help each other. <3

A few notes and warnings: This is NOT an alternative to a therapist, if you think you or someone you love may seriously injure themselves, SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IMMEDIATELY. There are many mental health call and text lines for support and advice when you can't see someone in person, and if you're feeling really down I implore you to seek help from the adults in your life as soon as you can. If you believe someone close to you may be in danger, please inform a trustworthy adult to help you assist them in any way possible.

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  • I feel like I'm split in two. Half of me is normal and happy, and is logical about my feelings and stuff. The other half pretty much hates me and wants me to die (moderators, please don't freak out—I myself do not want to die and I'm NOT suicidal. I am not anywhere near killing myself. Plus, I've already talked about all this stuff with my mom). I may appear fine, but there's this half of my mind that is always just spewing all these hateful thoughts about me. It's like having a bully standing behind me all day, telling me how much they hate me, telling me bad things I should do to myself, etc. The only difference is that, 1. It's me telling myself all these bad things, not someone else, and 2. A bully you can run away from. I can't run away from my own head.

    Sometimes these thoughts are more muted, mostly when I'm doing things that I enjoy or that stimulate my brain. But when I'm sitting doing nothing, or am doing schoolwork or chores, stuff that I don't find fun, all these thoughts come back, sometimes really bad, to the point where I'm almost overwhelmed by them and have to run away to my room or some other place where I can be alone until I feel better.

    It's driving me crazy, I don't know why I can't stop thinking these things, or why several months ago I was totally fine, and now I'm not. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel this way? Sometimes I think I'm just making this all a big deal when it's not.
  • I broke up with my 4th therapist on Wednesday. I haven't been able to connect with any therapists, and I don't experience any improvement, even after seeing someone for weeks or months. Therapy isn't a relief any more; it's tedious and a waste of valuable time. I've said everything I want to say, and my relationship with my mother is stronger than ever, so I can talk to her about almost everything I think of. I don't really want to find another therapist, because I suspect it will turn out the same, but my parents insist.
    • Ugh, I'm sorry. That sounds really hard. Could you maybe talk to them about finding some books and online resources rather than a traditional therapist?
  • I really desperately want to go to a therapist but idk when/if it will happen. My mom asked my pediatrician for some names so she's been looking through them, but it's taking a while because she doesn't want to throw me in with someone random and make it worse.

    And sometimes everything's okay. Right now I can distract myself since I'm constantly doing something and being busy. But I feel it, whatever it is, like a constant humming or white noise in the background, and occasionally it just gets horrible and I break down and have (what I think is) a panic attack. The difference between now and this summer was that this summer, I was in a nearly constant state of not feeling good. I was in a constant state of having little break downs every day or so. And now it's, like I said, a muffled background noise. Maybe some tears or panic will slip out here and there, but for the most part it's sitting in some corner inside me. About a week ago, though, I had what was probably the worst panic attack of my life, and it was caused by something so small and meaningless. I just lost it, I couldn't breathe, I was trying to stay quiet because it was night but trying to hold it in caused me to almost throw up, and I was sweating, and it was just insane. It was like I had disappeared, and been replaced with an illogical version of myself who literally cannot see common sense.
    And if this is how it's going to be, I'd almost prefer having those smaller break downs every couple days. Those felt like sitting at the bottom of a really warm, dark hole, but the one I described felt like being stabbed in the stomach.

    Oh gosh. I don't know. You can just ignore this, I just wanted to get it out and for some reason my brain screamed "new moon!" rather than "the privacy of your journal!"
    • Mod S2S Mentor
      Oh man I'm sorry Emily, that sounds like really rough stuff to deal with D': I hope you can find a good therapist soon, as that's definitely the best course of action. While its good your pediatrician/mom (I'm not clear which) is taking this seriously and looking through the best options for a therapist, it can be really hard to have to wait longer to get help ._. None the less, I hope it all works out soon <'33 *huggles*
      • ^^^^^ I'm sorry.
      • ^^^^^^^^
  • So I had an anxiety attack in math class and I need help figuring out what caused it. Is there anyone who might be able to help me with this?
    • Mod S2S Mentor
      Some people do get panic/anxiety attacks at seemingly random times, and they don't necessarily need to have a specific thing that causes them to erupt in the setting in which they do. :/
      However, it could also easily be related to something particular. Was there anything overtly stressful going on at the time that might have triggered it? (A confusing topic in math the teacher was talking about, drama with someone in your class, etc.) If not, I don't know - if there's something else in your life that's been a source of stress for you, it might also be a sort of spillover from that - like a pot boiling over, not because of any specific outside force at the moment of boiling over that was the trigger, just because everything was building up inside and it got to the point where it couldn't be contained.

      Otherwise, I'm not quite sure what to say without knowing more. :( *hugs* I hope you're feeling better now, at the very least. <'3
      • I hope there was a cause, because that was scary and I don't want it to happen again.
        No, not really, just a minor irritation. (I clicked the wrong button and everybody was asking me about it) I had been having a nice day thus far.

        *hugs* Luckily, I'm much better now. <3
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