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So, I was homeschooled for elementary school. I started middle school last year at a public charter school. I like my friends, but they are kind of immature, which is fine, but I feel like I am growing out of them. They can also be tease-y, but they mean it in a good way, it can just get annoying. The issue is that I don't want them to be offended and also there isn't really anyone who is better. Though this may sound dumb, I want to have a more cliche, cliquey, drama-y middle school experience. My school is good because it ISN'T clique-y but I honestly kind of want that. I feel like I've had such an unusual experience related to school and I want to have a normal one! I'm thinking about switching to a larger, more clique-y high school, and I probably will because I want to start fresh friends-wise. I don't think it's possible at this point to really change friend groups in middle school, but I don't care that much.

Another thing: I want to date but my friends make fun of people who date, and I don't want to be picked on by them.

AND another thing: I was nearly certain that I am a lesbian, but now I am not completely sure.

Anyway, I just needed to rant, and I just feel weird about middle school right now. I want a new friend group, and a more cliche middle school and high school experience.

If you have any advice at all please tell me!

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  • I know exactly what your talking about! I was homeschooled for quite a while before going to a public elementary school, and it was so different. I get the friend thing too. I’m not sure I have advice for that, because I’m in the same sort of situation at school, and I’m kinda stuck XP, but just know that you absolutely will find people you click with, and don’t try to mold yourself into something you’re not to make a better friend. As for the more cliche-y experience, I definitely see where your coming from, as I go to a very small neighborhood middle school, and while there’s plenty of drama, it’s definitely not cliche-y. However, I have to say, coming from a gigantic elementary school, it’s going to be a huge, probably really stressful change. Not necessarily bad, not at all, but I can guarantee it will be much harder to adjust to than a smaller school. And there will be drama, there will be cliches for sure, but you should know cliches are kinda fake in the first place. But I get it, and I think it’s a really good idea to start fresh, and find a school you’ll really like, so I absolutely support you if that’s what you want to go for, just a heads up :)

    Ah yes, the drama of middle school dating: well, personally dating isn’t something I want to do until, probably well into high school, so I’m not sure if my advice will be the best, but here goes: you’ve probably heard this before, but you should be really careful of hurrying into dating. Even if you’re mature enough, even if you’re completely ready, it’s going to be pretty hard to find another middle schooler who is too, and who’s committed enough to not just be done with the whole thing in a month. That being said, everyone’s ready at a different time, and if you feel ready to date, knowing all the pros and cons, don’t worry too much about what your friends will think, especially if you’re not sure they’re very reliable/good friends.

    Okay, that is something I REALLY understand, only reversed. I had never even thought about being bi or pan, I certainly knew I wasn’t lesbian because I had always liked guys, but then I got a crush on a girl, and then another, and after two years I’m pretty darn certain I’m bisexual. But who knows? I could lose my attraction to guys, or to girls, I could feel differently about my attractions to them, it’s really weird and complicated because right now, in middle school, e v e r y t h i n g is changing, our bodies are mad at us, our minds don’t know what the heck is going on, everything is just trying to adjust and figure itself out. You could be bi with a preference, you could end up being pan, you could be lesbian and still see the attractiveness in guys, just not see them as ever being romantic or sexual attraction/partners. I would try not to worry about it, but if lesbian isn’t a label you’re still comfortable with, try finding one that resonates with you. If lesbian is still a label you like, well, use it! No one has the right to tell you who you are and what you can label yourself.

    No problem about ranting, I hope my advice helps!
  • I don't have advice on this particular situation but If you want to talk about middle school (or just want to chat with someone for fun) PLEASE PM me I am vert frequently on NMG and want to help/ just be a good friend
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