Luna's Blog

Mod S2S Mentor

Sister to Sister: Realizing You're LGBT+

The first time I knew I had a crush on a girl, I had just turned twelve years old. I wasn’t too surprised to find myself attracted to her, as I’d already found some other girls attractive. And one time, upon reading in a science magazine that evidence points to being gay not being a choice, my reaction was, “but I WANT to choose to be gay!” This doesn’t mean, however, that it was easy or fast for me to realize I was, in fact, gay.

I’ll start this story when I was ten. That was when I had what I thought was my first crush. He was a boy my age in my dance class, and because some of my friends were starting to have crushes, I decided, “I’m going to have a crush on this boy.” What I didn’t realize was that crushes weren’t something you chose to have. What I really didn’t realize was that I had already had crushes--just not on boys, like I assumed I was supposed to. For instance, I had always felt a fluttery nervous-excitement around a friend’s older sister, but it had never registered as attraction.

As time went by, I realized I could be attracted to girls. I had that first crush on a girl, and more following that, but I still assumed I liked boys. But around when I turned sixteen, four years after I realized I definitely wasn’t straight, I started thinking--what if I’m not bi? What if I’m a lesbian? A couple months prior, I had had a crush on a male actor, who played one of my favorite characters on a show I was watching. But as soon as my investment in the character faded . . . the crush disappeared, and so did the attraction to men I thought I had. I started seeking out posts online by lesbians about their experiences before they realized they were lesbians, and a lot of what I read sounded like my own experience.

I’m not going to pretend I stopped questioning then. I still have feelings about specific men that make me wonder if I’m attracted to them. I have no idea how I’ll think of myself even six months from now. And that’s okay! I don’t need to know exactly what I am right now. And if you, who are reading this, are going through anything similar, neither do you. Nobody does.

Maybe you’re questioning your sexuality, or your gender, and you can’t relate to anything I’ve written. And that’s also okay. My experience won’t be the same as anyone else’s, and neither will yours. Some people know they’re LGBT+ when they’re very young, some when they’re old, some sometime in between. Many people think they’re one thing and later realize they’re another, but some don’t. And even though no two people have the same experience, no matter when you start questioning and how long it takes, there will be someone who’s gone through something similar.

E-mail me when people leave their comments –
Mod S2S Mentor

I'm Catherine, and I'm 18. I love writing (though I don't do as much of it as I'd like), and I'm also very serious about dance.

You need to be a member of NMG Members to add comments!


  • Wow! What are all those sexual references? I don’t talk about this stuff much
    • Mod S2S Mentor
      Good question! For the most part, they refer to which gender someone might be sexually/romantically attracted to. (In other words, who they might potentially "like", i.e. have a crush on.) I'll try to give a brief definition of each term included in this blog post, but let me know if I miss anything and/or anything isn't clear! :)

      • Straight—Another word for this is heterosexual. Basically, it means someone who would "like" people of the opposite gender. So a straight girl would be attracted to boys, and vice versa.
      • Gay—Another word for this is homosexual. To put it simply, it's kind of like the opposite of straight, meaning that someone would "like" people of the same gender that they themselves are. The word "gay" is most often used to refer to males who are attracted to other males, but can really be used to refer to anyone who is attracted to the same gender that they are. e.g. A boy who gets crushes only on other boys would be considered gay.
      • Lesbian—This means the same thing as gay (being attracted to the same gender), but is used only to refer to females; so, a girl who gets crushes only on other girls.
      • Bisexual—This refers to someone who could potentially be attracted to someone who's male *or* female—regardless of their own gender. People sometimes think of it as a sort of "combination" of straight and gay, in that a bisexual person might have a crush on someone of their own gender (similar to being gay) or on someone of the opposite gender (similar to being straight), but it's really a distinctive sexual orientation of its own. People also sometimes refer to bisexual as just "bi" for short, so if you ever see that, that's probably what it means. :)

      There are also a number of other terms out there (such as pansexual, meaning that someone could potentially be attracted to anyone, gender completely notwithstanding, or asexual, meaning that they wouldn't be attracted to anyone at all—and many other terms too), but I think these are the ones Catherine mentioned here. :) Feel free to ask if you have any other questions!
  • I love this! It's a good pointer, so thank you so much!
  • Really good writing, i can kind of relate, i think i'm Bi but i'm not sure
    • ^^^
  • This is really great writing! I'm queer, and this is really great information.
  • I have had similar experiences. I am asexual and homoromantic so yay :3. This is beautiful.
This reply was deleted.

What Do You Think?

You need to be a member of NMG Members to add comments!


  • AAAAGGHHH! We're going to miss y'all so much! *hugs*
  • thanks sister to sister
  • Oh. My. Gosh. Thank you so much for the 'Sister to Sister: Starting Your Story' article, I've been struggling a lot with my writing!
  • Thank you for this!!
    I L-O-V-E it :)
  • S2S mentors are epic!
  • it’s true. if you are addicted to the internet & (or) websurf. it can cause severe cyber bullying, viruses, and extreme hoffic content (mostly ads) and somtimes tracking. Some good ways to prevent this on the open internet(in my opinion) are

    1. Do not look up random things

    2. Research an online community before you use it. (Not all sites are like NMG)

    3. When signing up for something, do NOT skip the terms of service , or the privacy policy. EVER.

    4. You have to be able to turn or log off the site during servere drama, if it’s against another person get an adult.(severe bullying directed at you for example)

    5. Don’t use the internet as a mask, for yourself. ( don’t spite against others even if your
    Offended or angery, etc...)

    6.have etiquette

    7.dont ask for personal info

    I hope this helps
    (I’ll edit later.)
This reply was deleted.