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Sister to Sister: Dealing with Embarrassment

“Do you have any advice for embarrassment? I get embarrassed about the littlest things; things I say or do, or how I look, and I really want to get over this.”

-Grace

 

I get embarrassed pretty easily, too. I’ll say something “weird,” dress slightly different than usual, et cetera, and I’ll find myself thinking, “why did I DO that???” But I’ve found that if you act like what you’re embarrassed about isn’t a big deal, other people generally won’t care. And even if they do, it won’t necessarily last long. To elaborate:

 

First, you. I mentioned acting like it isn’t a big deal, but really, the most important thing is how you think about it. I actually find it helps me to think of past things I’ve been embarrassed by. It sounds counterintuitive, but how I think about it is, hey, I’ve done some seriously embarrassing things in the past, but I survived! It’s happened before, it can happen again. I’ve said things to my friends that have made me wonder why they’d want to be friends with me (a vaguely insensitive comment here, a seemingly nonsensical offer for a bra there), but you know what? I’m still friends with those people. Yes, this won’t be the case every time for everyone, but in many, even most, cases, the worst-case scenario isn’t the most likely. (Though, I would recommend apologizing if you feel you’ve been rude to someone.)

 

Second, other people. I often get super self-conscious of how other people view me, but the thing is, they’re likely paying more attention to themselves that to you. You could try this: for a few days or so, try to notice when other people do the things you get embarrassed about. Chances are, they’ll seem like less of a big deal when it’s not you. I tend to get really self-conscious when something about my appearance is different than usual--say, new  sunglasses--and this strategy often helps me with that.

 

I hope this helps, and good luck!

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I'm Catherine, and I'm 18. I love writing (though I don't do as much of it as I'd like), and I'm also very serious about dance.

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  • Thank you! This was very helpful:D
  • This is great advice. To add to the last paragraph, I find that watching how other people deal with things that they've done that are embarrassing helps me to figure out what to say and do when I have done something embarrassing.
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  • thanks sister to sister
  • Oh. My. Gosh. Thank you so much for the 'Sister to Sister: Starting Your Story' article, I've been struggling a lot with my writing!
    • Mod S2S Mentor
      Aaaa I'm so glad it helped!! <33 Good luck with your writing! :'D
  • Thank you for this!!
    I L-O-V-E it :)
  • S2S mentors are epic!
  • I LOVE THIS!
  • it’s true. if you are addicted to the internet & (or) websurf. it can cause severe cyber bullying, viruses, and extreme hoffic content (mostly ads) and somtimes tracking. Some good ways to prevent this on the open internet(in my opinion) are

    1. Do not look up random things

    2. Research an online community before you use it. (Not all sites are like NMG)

    3. When signing up for something, do NOT skip the terms of service , or the privacy policy. EVER.

    4. You have to be able to turn or log off the site during servere drama, if it’s against another person get an adult.(severe bullying directed at you for example)

    5. Don’t use the internet as a mask, for yourself. ( don’t spite against others even if your
    Offended or angery, etc...)

    6.have etiquette

    7.dont ask for personal info

    I hope this helps
    (I’ll edit later.)
  • These S2S tips are great!
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