I'm seventeen years old and I've never been in a romantic relationship. Relationships are a popular topic in books and movies, as well as at my old school. I don't think there's anything wrong with being in a relationship. From what I've seen, relationships can be fun and interesting. A lot of my friends are in happy relationships. However, I don't think that anyone should be pressured to be in a romantic relationship. I think that it's your choice- not your friends' choice- to decide when you are ready to be in a relationship (although I would recommend getting your parents' permission before you start dating), or if you want to be in a relationship at all. Furthermore, I think that people can be just as happy without a relationship as they can be with one.
I first started hearing about relationships in middle school. My friends would talk about which boys they thought were cute and ask me who I thought was cute. My first crush was a fictional character from a popular book, but I didn't have crushes other than that. I was homeschooled at the time, and I went to a mostly all girls co-op, so I didn't meet many guys my age. I was happy for my friends when they met guys who they liked, but I was happy to be single. Middle school was the time when I became really interested in writing. I also started learning about music and singing, so those were my main focuses during that time of my life.
When I started high school, I started hearing more about relationships. People talked about the fun, exciting parts of dating, such as asking each other to Homecoming or asking each other out. They also talked about the problems that can happen in relationships, such as breaking up with their boyfriend or girlfriend, or being too busy to see each other. Some of my friends who are also single say they want a boyfriend or girlfriend. But some of my other friends, like me, say they are happy to be single and don't want to date anyone right now. It all depends on the person.
In books, movies, and at school, I've seen girls pressure each other to start dating. I've also been pressured by my friends to start dating. For example, a lot of my friends have asked me why I'm still single. I tell them the truth: "I'm focusing on schoolwork, writing and singing right now." When my friends tell me that I should get a boyfriend, I tell them that I haven't met the right guy yet and I'm too busy with schoolwork and extracurriculars. I don't think that I'm ready for a relationship right now. I spend a lot of time on other things, so right now, I don't think I would have time for a relationship. Even though some of my friends think I should be in a relationship, I'm not going to have a boyfriend just because other people want me to get one. I'm going to wait until the time is right for me.
I'm single and I have awesome friends and hobbies that I love. If you have a happy relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, that's great, but if you're not in a relationship, that's great too. I think the most important thing to know about relationships is that you are an amazing, smart, talented, and beautiful person whether you're in a relationship or not. What do you think about relationships? Let me know what you think in the comments below!