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Sister to Sister: Dating and Relationships

I'm seventeen years old and I've never been in a romantic relationship. Relationships are a popular topic in books and movies, as well as at my old school. I don't think there's anything wrong with being in a relationship. From what I've seen, relationships can be fun and interesting. A lot of my friends are in happy relationships. However, I don't think that anyone should be pressured to be in a romantic relationship. I think that it's your choice- not your friends' choice- to decide when you are ready to be in a relationship (although I would recommend getting your parents' permission before you start dating), or if you want to be in a relationship at all. Furthermore, I think that people can be just as happy without a relationship as they can be with one.

I first started hearing about relationships in middle school. My friends would talk about which boys they thought were cute and ask me who I thought was cute. My first crush was a fictional character from a popular book, but I didn't have crushes other than that. I was homeschooled at the time, and I went to a mostly all girls co-op, so I didn't meet many guys my age. I was happy for my friends when they met guys who they liked, but I was happy to be single. Middle school was the time when I became really interested in writing. I also started learning about music and singing, so those were my main focuses during that time of my life.

When I started high school, I started hearing more about relationships. People talked about the fun, exciting parts of dating, such as asking each other to Homecoming or asking each other out. They also talked about the problems that can happen in relationships, such as breaking up with their boyfriend or girlfriend, or being too busy to see each other. Some of my friends who are also single say they want a boyfriend or girlfriend. But some of my other friends, like me, say they are happy to be single and don't want to date anyone right now. It all depends on the person.

In books, movies, and at school, I've seen girls pressure each other to start dating. I've also been pressured by my friends to start dating. For example, a lot of my friends have asked me why I'm still single. I tell them the truth: "I'm focusing on schoolwork, writing and singing right now." When my friends tell me that I should get a boyfriend, I tell them that I haven't met the right guy yet and I'm too busy with schoolwork and extracurriculars. I don't think that I'm ready for a relationship right now. I spend a lot of time on other things, so right now, I don't think I would have time for a relationship. Even though some of my friends think I should be in a relationship, I'm not going to have a boyfriend just because other people want me to get one. I'm going to wait until the time is right for me.

I'm single and I have awesome friends and hobbies that I love. If you have a happy relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, that's great, but if you're not in a relationship, that's great too. I think the most important thing to know about relationships is that you are an amazing, smart, talented, and beautiful person whether you're in a relationship or not. What do you think about relationships? Let me know what you think in the comments below!

- Alexandra

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Alexandra is sixteen years old. She wants to be a writer and singer when she grows up.

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Comments

  • I don't see myself dating anyone anytime soon..... I wouldn't even know how to talk to anyone to even try making friends with them (probably best to be friends first), much less ask them out.
  • Thanks Alexandra
    :D
  • I'm twelve and I totally think I'm too young for dating. Maybe wait for dating until you are in 9th grade, but never feel pressured to do anything. There is no expected time where you should start dating though, just whenever you are ready. Also I feel like relationships in books usually aren't realistic. Its not all easy and romantic sometimes from what I understand. Thanks for starting this discussion Alexandra!
  • I totally agree. I'm 13 and some of my friends (some of them are a few years younger than me) are constantly talking about boys they like or think like them. I am not one bit interested in that stuff, and the only boy I like the least bit is also a fictional character. Also, I am homeschooled, so I don't really know many boys. I think it's a waste of time to worry about boys when you are in middle school. And that movies and books exaggerate the importance of that. So pretty much, yeah, I agree with everything. (I also want to be a writer and songwriter when I grow up.) :D
  • I really like this. It's interesting, the way movies and Hollywood exaggerate that people just date from girl to girl to guy to guy, and that just really isn't the case. Thanks, Alexandra!
  • It's really interesting to read this. I'm almost 15 and have never been in a relationship nor do I feel the need to be in one. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be that close with someone, but I'm fine without it. I can't see myself wanting to be in one anytime soon, probably when I'm 18 or 19 I might find someone I really want to be in a relationship with, but until then, I'm happy.
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