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Sister to Sister: Identity and Change

When you’re young, especially--or at least that’s my impression, I haven’t ever not been young after all!--figuring out who you are can be a big thing. I’ve written before specifically about my experience realizing I’m gay, but beyond that, I’ve found my perception of myself has changed in a lot of ways.


My first few years of high school, I knew: I was a dancer, and I was always going to be a dancer. Anything else seemed unthinkable. I didn’t constantly feel confident in this, but when I did feel doubt, it felt awful and wrong and I didn’t want to consider that I could stop wanting to dance. This started to fade somewhat over my junior year, and then early in my senior year, I went on an overnight college visit, and it felt as if everything had changed. I was in a totally new environment, much of my time was spent on things totally unrelated to dance, and I had an amazing time. It made me realize I don’t want to be a dancer first and a person second. While that’s much healthier than my earlier perspective, it scared me at first. For years, I refused to consider I could be anything but a dancer, and now, while I was no longer confining myself to one thing I could be, the certainty I’d previously had was gone.


This story doesn’t end the way you might think it does. I haven’t stopped dancing--in fact, I’m taking a gap year to continue dancing with my current company before I go to college (the same college I mentioned earlier). I still spend just as much time dancing as I have in the past, and I still love it, and want to continue doing it. But I know it’s not the only thing I love to do, or the only career I could have, or most importantly, who I am as a person. I feel secure that if and when I do stop dancing, I won’t lose my identity.


Who you are, or who you think you are, can change, and that’s scary. Sometimes I wonder if who I am now is anything like who I’ll be in, say, five. But I’ve done it before, and I can do it again. I hope some of you can find something that may help you in my experiences.

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I'm Catherine, and I'm 18. I love writing (though I don't do as much of it as I'd like), and I'm also very serious about dance.

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  • AAAAGGHHH! We're going to miss y'all so much! *hugs*
  • thanks sister to sister
  • Oh. My. Gosh. Thank you so much for the 'Sister to Sister: Starting Your Story' article, I've been struggling a lot with my writing!
  • Thank you for this!!
    I L-O-V-E it :)
  • S2S mentors are epic!
  • it’s true. if you are addicted to the internet & (or) websurf. it can cause severe cyber bullying, viruses, and extreme hoffic content (mostly ads) and somtimes tracking. Some good ways to prevent this on the open internet(in my opinion) are

    1. Do not look up random things

    2. Research an online community before you use it. (Not all sites are like NMG)

    3. When signing up for something, do NOT skip the terms of service , or the privacy policy. EVER.

    4. You have to be able to turn or log off the site during servere drama, if it’s against another person get an adult.(severe bullying directed at you for example)

    5. Don’t use the internet as a mask, for yourself. ( don’t spite against others even if your
    Offended or angery, etc...)

    6.have etiquette

    7.dont ask for personal info

    I hope this helps
    (I’ll edit later.)
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